“I am, indeed a king, because I know how to rule myself.” – Pietro Arentino
When we come into this world we’re told what to do, how to dress, what to be like, and who we are. There are all these rules we are told we have to follow and we don’t question them. As we grow up, we realize we are constantly changing and don’t have to abide by these so-called rules to please people. These are the rules we should break:
Rule #1: Don’t Ask Questions
Please, ask questions. If I’ve learned anything from my last four years in college it’s that the only stupid question is the one you don’t ask. We’re taught to be quiet from such an early age. Some of us may even be afraid to ask questions. We should never just accept things for what they are if we feel uncertain. We should ask. Sometimes a question that we feel stupid about asking could be the question that saves us from looking stupid.
Rule #2: Don’t Be Emotional
I hate this rule. Everyone tells us to suck it up and grow thicker skin. It’s okay to be emotional. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be sad. We’re always told to be the tough guys and get over things quickly. Time heals all wounds. We can’t just “get over it” – whatever “it” is – within a day or two sometimes. Emotions help us express how we are feeling and help define who we are. There’s a big difference between being a crybaby over every little mishap and going through our normal cycle of emotions.
Rule #3: Just Ignore the Problem
Problems don’t go away by ignoring them. I think almost every human being can attest to that. If something or someone is truly bothering us then we need to speak up. This goes along with asking questions. We need to be vocal if we want something to change.
Instead of living our lives by the rules created by people-pleasers we should make our own. We should do whatever we need to in order to live our own beautiful lives.