“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.” – Jacqui Rivait
People who offer unsolicited advice should follow the rule above: if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all. Part of the reason why I got so discouraged from my blog switch and name change was because of people who didn’t know how to shut their mouths.
I should’ve stayed strong and stood by my idea, but even the name was getting criticized. The photo criticisms are what bothered me the most. I knew making an Instagram for the account would open the door for negative people, but this one instance is a little different. A friend (or someone who I thought was a friend) messaged me every time I posted a picture to my new (and now former) blog – what used to be A Cup of Positivity.
Maybe one day I will try to snatch the domain again and start over, but for now, it’s too much work with school, work, and blogging. Maintaining an Instagram and dealing with the commentary from one troll is something I don’t have time for.
After each photo would get posted on Instagram, I’d get a direct message or a text almost instantly after with a suggestion from someone who is no place to give one. I should take my pictures this way or I should fix my settings. I’d get personal examples of the person’s own photography comparing reasons why I should do things one way as opposed to the other. Was that really necessary?
Did I ask for the feedback? No. Is it okay to give people feedback? Yes, but there’s a way to be nice about it instead of telling them they’re doing everything wrong. I wasn’t even doing anything wrong, which is what upset me. It made me feel like my work wasn’t good enough. I never make any claims on my blog about being a professional photographer – I never even make the claim that I am a photographer. I’m a writer. I just like taking pictures so I have a photo for my blog every week. It’s made me disciplined in my writing and it’s given me the chance to use my camera more. I’ve blogged about it several times before – this is for me. No one else.
So why a picture of Cars Land for this post? Well, I’ve been irritated by these comments for a while. So much so that I’m writing a blog about it weeks after it happened. This picture was taken last Saturday when I decided I would figure out my proper “settings” all on my own and try to shoot on manual. I did pretty good on my own and I taught myself how to do it. I don’t need other amateurs giving me suggestions for their own validation. I’m perfectly fine the way I am. I know I take great pictures from time to time and I know I’m content with both those and my writing. I don’t need unsolicited advice from people who shouldn’t be giving it. I’m doing this for me.