“Don’t forget you’re human. It’s okay to have a meltdown, just don’t unpack and live there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed.” — Unknown
I didn’t have a meltdown today, but I saw this quote and immediately wanted to start writing about it. “Don’t unpack and live” in your meltdown. Wow. That struck me. Especially because I know I’ve done that before and couldn’t ever find the words to describe it. Though I wasn’t dealing with torrential tears or any sort of existential crisis, I still felt like I needed something to make me feel better.
After work, I debated working out. I had it on the calendar and promised myself I’d do it. I started making excuses in my head and tried to pick the easier things over the more challenging ones. Then, as I got ready to start, I decided I would do it. A switch flipped. I did some toning and cardio followed by much-needed yoga.
I lit my cucumber and lily candle. It smells absolutely amazing and I think I have to buy another. It helps make yoga even more enjoyable…I’m big on aromatherapy. I chose “Change & Drain” on my favorite yoga channel, Yoga with Adriene, because I’ve felt a little thrown off this week. Maybe it’s because of the time change or maybe it’s because I think it’s that. Who knows?
While I was doing yoga though, I reminded myself of the importance of recharging. I immediately thought of how we treat our cell phones in these types of situations. Think about it: when your phone is at 5%, you know you need to plug it in soon otherwise it won’t turn on and perform its normal functions. The same goes for people except we don’t have a battery percentage icon telling us we need to metaphorically plug-in.
For me, I’ve noticed there are two ways to tell it’s time for a recharge:
- Your body is telling you it’s exhausted or ready for a break through physical signals.
- It’s the end of the day and it’s time to recharge.
How often do you charge your phone? Depending on phone type and battery life, we could get into a lot of different answers here. For argument’s sake, let’s say we charge our phones every day or at least every other day. After a long day, you come home and let your phone reenergize itself so you can use it tomorrow.
If we don’t take the time to reenergize ourselves or take care of what we need in the moment, then we start building the mental breakdown that has the potential to arrive in a few days or at the end of the week. We start bottling things up and internalizing things because we are holding onto the negative energy to keep us going. We’re hanging on by a thread at that 5% because we can’t dip below it, but we’re doing nothing to recharge. This is where self-care comes in.
When we take care of ourselves every single day, we recharge our batteries. We may not always reach 100%, but we feel better than if we were holding onto the last few drops of energy before we go into “shut down” mode where everything feels negative.
One of the things I’ve learned about yoga (and why I’ve started talking about it so much) is that you have to appreciate it. Someone could tell you to try yoga and you may think it does nothing for you. I thought the same for years until I tried it. I wanted to dismiss it because I thought yoga was the Cardio-Pilates-Americanized version. It never looked fun to me because yoga isn’t necessarily solely about fun. It’s more about energy and creating balance. Don’t get me wrong though. It’s fun to feel balanced and calm after the fact instead of feeling like the Energizer Bunny™ who is running around on autopilot with the same batteries from last week.
Some of the things that have helped me recharge are:
- Yoga, walking, or fun cardio
- Blogging or journaling
- Lighting my favorite candle and taking a bath
- Indulging in a treat (One or two macarons can turn my mood around like no other.)
- Watching my favorite series or movies
- Having a small get-together with friends
- Shopping (This one can become dangerous if I wait too long to recharge!)
- Going to the beach
- Mini getaways and vacations
- Trying something new
And then there are the unexpected things. For instance, one of my photos showed up on the Love Your Melon Life Instagram page! I was so excited when it happened and had a moment of total refresh. It ended up getting over 300 likes—and I’m not one to fawn over numbers—but that was pretty impressive!
It made me remember the importance of enjoying the little things, like grabbing a cup of coffee with a friend and having a mini “therapy” session. Or wearing my favorite beanie because sometimes that little white pom-pom on the top brings me joy for no reason.
Appreciating the little things can hit the reset button for me sometimes. It serves as a reminder to be grateful and thankful for all the things I have in my life.
It’s important to remember to recharge and take care of yourself. It’s an important lesson some of us learn too late in life. Most importantly, when you have a bad day, try to mentally prepared for it. Don’t “unpack” there. Know that you’re just driving through a town and you’ll be back on the road in the right headspace soon enough.
Bad days are only temporary. We know they will happen, but it’s how we deal with them that truly shows how strong we are. Just remember to take care of yourself through them and after them. Take care, friends.