“Sometimes, struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If we were to go through our life without any obstacles, we would be crippled. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. Give every opportunity a chance, leave no room for regrets.” — Friedrich Nietzsche
I need to be honest about something: quarantine is hard. All the feelings and emotions finally caught up with me a few weeks ago. The exhaustion took over me. The headaches started showing up at random. My sleep patterns started getting thrown off. It was so easy to start falling out of routine. Instead of choosing to give up and move backwards any more, I made some changes. Here’s what I did to get back in the groove:
- I took a bath and read my favorite book. It was amazing to unwind in a hot tub of bubbles while reading a good Meg Cabot book. 🛁
- Set up bedtime on my iPhone. It made a world of difference to disconnect from technology by 7 p.m. and be in bed at a reasonable time. It was the first time I haven’t snoozed in months. 😴
- Did more of the things I loved. I started reading, writing, and getting in touch with other hobbies outside of mindlessly scrolling through social media and binge-watching series on Netflix.
- I journaled regularly and kept track of healthier habits. I’ve since been able to start incorporating more self-care and hobbies into my daily routine.
I stopped making excuses and throwing pity parties for myself. I let my emotions out and experienced them. Though there have been some days that have continued to feel like challenges, I know these struggles will only make me stronger. I’m continuing to nourish my body and take care of myself and it feels good. Moving forward, I’ve also decided to reevaluate my current weight loss strategy. I’ve been working with a coach, and I feel like everything we’ve tried isn’t working. It’s stressing me out even more to think that all this effort feels futile.
I’ve lost over 20 pounds, and I’ve hit a plateau again. My weight continues to fluctuate, but it hasn’t really been dropping since the beginning of the year. My measurements are stuck. It really upsets me to see my progress charts flatlined. I know I’ve grown in other ways, and that’s amazing to see some level of progress. At the end of the day, I want to lose 15-20 more pounds because I want to feel even more comfortable in my own skin. I want to be physically healthier and more in shape. I want to be more toned, and I know there is still work to be done.
The frustrating part is: I still hear all the time how great I look and how nothing needs to change about me. This is one of the biggest compliments people think they can give someone when really it sometimes feels defeating. It reminds me that I’ve come really far, but that I can just settle where I am. I don’t want to settle. And I know the person who says this usually has good intentions, but they don’t understand how important of a goal this is for me. I’m not doing it solely for “looks.” I’m doing it for my health and to feel better. When a person says I look great, it is directly equated to appearance. I share this with the hope of being informative and spreading the word to help others effectively communicate about an already very sensitive topic.
For anyone trying to lose weight or get into shape, they’re most likely doing it because they want some sort of change in their life. A great alternative response would be to say that you support their decisions or you’re proud of them for taking this step. Ask them what some of their other goals are. Get to know more about them and their “why.” And know that weight loss isn’t the only thing driving them in life; there are plenty of other things we all look forward to!
A huge part of me is praying that quarantine ends soon, so we can get back to normal life, but I also know it’s safer for us to stay home. So, for the next 30 days, I’ve decided to try a new strategy…my own. Now is the best time to try something new.
At the end of the day, I know what’s best for me and what works for me, so I’m going to trust that. I’ve lost 30 pounds in the past, and I know I can do it again (in fact, I’m almost there). I did the research, I put in the work, and I showed up. Now, I need something new with my knowledge guiding me. It’ll take more self-care, healthy choices, an active lifestyle, and a positive attitude. I don’t achieve my goals because they’re easy. I achieve them through consistency. And that’s what it’s going to take.
For now, I’ve set the intention to make healthy decisions and eat when I’m hungry, not when I’m bored from being in the house for too long. Each day, I’m doing my best to get outside, soak up a little bit of sun, do yoga, get more steps in, read, write, work on my novel, have more lunches on our patio, and take more time for myself.
When I do get that bored feeling throughout this quarantine, I know I can pick up a good book, pop another bath truffle in the tub, work on my writing projects, or do something that will get me closer to my goals.